Comments on: How likely is a marriage to last if the girl is 18 and the guy is 23 when they get married?

By: Mr. Spartan

Mr. Spartan — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 19:18:20 +0000

most people are about that far apart when theyre married…but maybe she should move in with him, date hi a little longer, like a Mock mairrage.

Then they can decide, maybe after another year.

of course, thats an opinion. my friends 15 and dating an 18 year old girl, so…

By: el pocho

el pocho — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 02:18:46 +0000

Bad Bad Bad! Getting married young is never good because later on down the road you will wonder what if. You start to think about all the things you never did. This is not the movies not everything ends with a happy ending. sorry to sound this way but hey this is life. Ask them this. How will they live? Where will they live? What will they do when kids come? getting along good is great but when you live together ALONE. thats a whole another ball game

By: mizicepickle

mizicepickle — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 12:18:24 +0000

They may make it, but there are many, many obstacles in their path that will make that commitment extremely challenging. As other posters have mentioned, both parties maturity has a lot to do with it.

Other things that may play a factor–

1) What sort of home life did each come from? Is there a pattern of women/men marrying young, and staying married, or are both sets of parents divorced, dad or mom a “player”, etc? Not that every marriage where one or both come from broken homes is doomed to failure, but it does stack the odds against them. Conversely, when both come from stable homes where successful marriages were modeled, they stand a better chance at being successful at marriage themselves.

2) Does your sister plan to go to college? Waking through the challenges of college while at the same time maneuvering the waters of the first couple years of marriage is a juggling act for anyone, let alone when one or both partners are so young. And if she plans to put off college for a few years, there’s a higher chance, a few years will come and go, a baby or two will be introduced, and it’ll be that much longer before she goes back to school. They would be better off waiting until she gets through school, and see where things are at that point.

3) Is he financially stable and secure in the direction he wants his life to go? If he’s still flipping burgers or waiting tables at 23, and she is basically just out of high school, in this day and age the financial stresses will soon catch up to them.

4) Are both of them willing to take a true, good look at the obstacles they face in addition to the “good” things they have? They are both just young enough that they may be in love with the ideal of marriage, but have no real idea of what marriage is really all about. Premarital counseling with a trusted spiritual adviser (or trained counselor if they have no faith-background) would be a very good idea. (Premarital counseling to some degree is a good idea for most marriage-minded couples, regardless of their age and life experiences.)

By: jj1ernest

jj1ernest — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 13:09:01 +0000

i think it depends upon the couple because everyone is different. that being said they are pretty young to be think about a serious commitment like that .

By: le

le — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 08:58:11 +0000

hes a pedophile

By: ForeverYoung

ForeverYoung — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 17:18:24 +0000

Not all young relationships end badly. My auntie and uncle have been together since they were 15/16 and they have to kids and are now both around 40. So it could last.

By: Kailey P

Kailey P — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 21:30:19 +0000

It all depends.
if they are willing to stick together,if they are willing to always be apart of eachothers lives.
my grandparents were 11yrs apart and they have lasted
50yrs, with 4 children.
if they truely love eachother and want to make it work, then if should work.
but they need to try hard. and realize when things
go wrong, not to give up on making them right.
personally age shouldnt matter…unless your like 6 and 30 :S

By: robmick

robmick — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 21:03:13 +0000

lessee…she was 18, I was 20..four kids and 27 years together, still BFF. My plan… put the other partner’s interests first and do what’s best for them, then they do likewise. Works like a charm. Cultivate maturity, give up jealousy.

By: Mountain Girl

Mountain Girl — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 08:41:09 +0000

Well, my brother was 22 and his wife was 18 when they got married and she wasn’t ready to mature so they divorced before a year. If you marry right out of high school, you’ll always feel like you didn’t live your life before you dove in. Regrets, lots of regrets. when your friends are running off to college and having fun partying, and your sitting at home cooking dinner and cleaning up after you and your husband, it gets really depressing. She WILL regret her decision. I don’t know if it’ll last or not but she’ll definitely be living with regrets. I don’t think that’s a very healthy marriage myself. btw, i’m 22 and my husband is 27. we started dating when i was 19 and got married two months ago after living together for 2 years. I was in college and lived my partying life to the fullest… I have no regrets. Good luck to her and her decision.

By: Snax

Snax — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 22:02:58 +0000

it depends that how mature they are,
some times ppl acting immature and argue and fight on so tiny lil details and make life imposible and then they divorce!!!
i think they need to see if they are realy ready for it

marriage need a real responsibility and care and it shud be on and off

they shud promise to take care of each other in evry situation and what ever happens, but sadly these days young ppl are not that kind,
but i hope them luck