What encourages people to wait until marriage to have ***?

Discussion Corner — By NikhilBhide on March 12, 2009 at 13:02

pageturner1988 asked:

There are plenty of people who decide to wait to have *** with their partners until marriage and I just don’t understand the reasons. If people are in a close-caring relationship, what is the point of waiting until after you have made a strong commitment, such as marriage, to express it?

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  • Hellboy says:

    being a freak

  • Zahra says:

    bc religion brainwashes people to second guess every decision

  • The Illusion of Progress says:

    Because of dumb @$$es that follow religion, or they have a small d!ck.

  • Skadoosh. says:

    Alarming increase of people being infected with the AIDs epidemic and many other vicious STDs

    Unwanted Pregnancy

    Religion

  • sunshinegrl1608 says:

    I was a virgin until I got married a year ago, and I’m proud of it! I had this incredibly precious gift that I had saved for only my husband, and I got to give it to him with God’s blessing.

    Sounds fluffy, doesn’t it? The world doesn’t use words like precious or gift or wait when they talk about ***. They talk about wow and desire and what a rush.

    But *** is God’s creation, not the world’s. Is the world’s way of whoever, whenever, whatever as exciting and free as they say it is?

    No way!

    Does God’s way of saving *** for marriage make it boring and routine?

    No way!

    The world would say I’m weird. Waiting until marriage? What? The world would say for sure that I really missed out.

    Know what I say?

    “You bet I did!”

    I missed out on a lot of things. I was missing out on:

    • Fear of Disease:
    Am I going to die of AIDS from sleeping with this guy?
    Does he have a sexually transmitted infection and not know it?

    • Fear of Comparison:
    Is he thinking of other girls when he’s with me?
    Does he wish I were more like _______?

    • Fear of His Past
    How many people has he been with before me?
    Am I important to him at all or just another body?

    • Fear of the Future
    Will he still care about me once he gets what he wants?
    What if I get pregnant?

    • Fear of Lies
    He says he loves me, but does he really just want ***?
    He says guys can’t help themselves, and that’s why he keeps going even after I say no.

    • Fear of Not Being Good Enough
    If I’m not better than any girl he’s been with, he’ll find someone else.
    Will he laugh at me because I don’t know what to do?

    • Fear of Being Caught
    Is God watching this?
    What if my parents find out?

    Yes, anyone who chooses God’s way is missing out on the world’s way. Thank goodness!

    I will never, ever regret choosing to wait until marriage to have ***. Why? Here are only some of the reasons why God’s way is so much better:

    1. No AIDS or STDs.
    2. You trust each other—you get to love without fear.
    3. No worries about the past. My husband cared enough about me, even before we met, to save himself for me. That’s very ****.
    4. You get to make love as much as you want without guilt!
    5. You know he loves you, not just your body. And it’s going to last.

    In marriage, you get to be as **** as you want, and God totally approves. Have you ever read the Song of Solomon? The wife writes some really racy stuff about her good-looking husband, and God approved it so much that He put it in His Book for the whole world to read.

  • I Aint Bitter says:

    uh,maybe they just cLAIM to not had sex,i mean,come on,are you that gullible?

  • vis says:

    i can answer this one easy..kids.. if you have children with someone and then they leave your holding the bag for child support.. if you marry them and they leave your holding the bag for so much more..but mostly it the child and religion thing going on and the STD..

  • icee&frosty says:

    Religion! xox

  • Krystal N says:

    I waited and so did my husband. We were engaged for 2 years and it was just like ccflo said. It was associated with us both being Christians and believing our bodies were temples and following what God wanted best for us. We are extremely happy having made that commitment together. Imagine having *** for the first time ever (both partners) on your honeymoon night. It was indescribable how incredibly close it brought us (I’m not saying it can’t bring you close if you’re not married) it just really was something we chose to do. I didn’t want to give myself to someone and end up something happening to that relationship and getting married to someone else later and feeling like I gave part of myself to someone else and not fully to my husband.

  • Edima says:

    Personally its because of religion
    Again the is the issue of moral values, such as keeping yourself for the right person
    Even if someone is engaged that does not mean the person is going to get married
    Again there is the is the issue of STDs which are making rounds with sexually active people
    And last but not least the issue of unwanted preganancy that has caused crazy controversy on abortion laws

  • Silver Wood Duck says:

    Yes, typically, it is religion…

    But there are some practical reasons, too.

    Considering the risks that come with promsicuity, I’m honestly surprised that more people don’t wait.

    STDs of all kinds
    pregnancy
    heartbreak (breakup, tough decision about unplanned pregnancy, etc)
    trust issues (trusting your partner, trusting yourself)

    And all this can be avoided by just waiting.

  • ThaQueenie says:

    Its because you can get std s from your partner and aids and stuff.

    it does have to do somewhat of religion

    if you search Herpes you’ll see why people should wait,

  • smallboyonherbike says:

    The reasons why people wait until they’re married is because *** is a very important thing. And it’s extremely important to females because we have a very important gift. Our virginity is something special and when a man takes it it shouldn’t be taken with pride but with gentleness. Sometimes us females tend to give it to someone before marriage and that person doesn’t appreciate it. So when we wait till we get married so that way we know at least that he’s someone who is worth giving it too.

  • Brandi W says:

    1) Religion.

    2) AIDS, STDs, unwanted pregnancy. Not that waiting eliminates all these things, but it certainly lessens the risk by a significant amount.

    3) For some, *** is the ultimate bond to establish with another person. And they don’t want to do it unless they are going to be with that person for life.

  • Iskariot says:

    ok some ways to encourage ppl to not have *** till marriage is think about if a condom breaks then the girls pregnant and ur stuck getting a job and haveing to buy food for the child and clothing for the baby and other needs and if u 2 cant handle that then ur baby will b takin away front you…

    Also even if the woman is on birthcontrol and you wear a condom there still is a chaance the woman can get pregnant just rember theres that 1% chance. And anthother thing is being dead serious you have to find the right person and get checked cus you MAY get aids or herpies

    plus your parents would be pissed=]

  • kwill81 says:

    So doing enhances the commitment made by each. Statistics show that those who wait remain faithful longer. Not waiting demeans and devalues the marriage.

  • I gS I Zunduro says:

    because if you inpregnate the girl it’s your responsability to take care of the child when or if your in sckool still so think about it who is going to take care of the kid.

    plus when you get married there is an unlikely chance that you will spread STD’s because you can both be tested and will only have *** with on person.

    but if you don’t get married and have *** with multiple people there is a great chance on spreading STD’s you don’t want that to happen.

    I’m waiting after i get married because it’s a better chose to make

    Hope this helped

  • luknforluke says:

    open the presents before Christmas, do you?

  • Courtney B says:

    Religious beliefs and/or social stereotypes(such as if you have *** you’re a whore/slut)

  • Kcat all the way baby says:

    sex can be a really sensitive topic to some people, they feel they need to be commited in someway before being commited sexually. It’s a promise to your self and god that you won’t jump into things too early. some people may belive they have a close-caring relationship but things may end after ***. mostly the reason is for if a person is not in a close caring relationship. Some people would like to wait until they found someone they truely care about before they ahve ***. They want to stay pure to tehmselves because *** is so different to so many people. it could be a quick thing or it could be life altering whatever way you look at it. That is why some people commit to no *** before marriage. At least that is my reason and the reason of many of the people i know who have made the same commitment.

  • ccflo95 says:

    I’m a Christian.
    We believe that your body is a temple.
    And adultery is a sin.
    So if you lie or commit other sins.
    You are committing sins “outside” your body.
    But when you have *** before marriage, you are sinning AGAINST your body.

    Your body should be used to honor God (in my opinion) not for selfish satisfaction.

    Your Body is your Temple of God

    1 Cor. 6:19-20 “Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body,” (1 Cor. 6:19-20).

  • wes436584 says:

    I would say both religion and fear of having kids are at the top of the list along with getting an STD…nasty! The reality is that if the opportunity presents itself..then I would get the experience as much as you can without getting her prego…

  • uoftstef says:

    Religion, but not all religious people wait. I am Roman Catholic and didn’t wait, and I don’t know if I will go to “hell” for it or not but I don’t really care….I love him…and it just so happens we’re going to get married…but I don’t really see the point in waiting until marriage because I think *** is an important part of a relationship. I think *** brought me closer to my boyfriend and I think I love him even more, maybe also because I’m not the type to bang every guy I see…but I dunno….kinda silly.

  • abigailroseis says:

    Because my 4th period health teacher is burning detailed images of venereal diseases into our minds. It stings! And I have that class before lunch…ugh….

  • Joseph says:

    It’s a legal contract to stick with your spouse to the very end. It’s a decleration that you won’t go dump her and ***** another broad. Although it happens even in that circumstance.

  • Andrea says:

    The bible.
    Following Christ.

  • zahraa07 says:

    Religion requires it for many reasons and one reason is to keep a woman’s dignity and purity alive. Why a white dress when she gets married? Because it symbolizes purity.

  • D.C.born says:

    because it makes the experience really special with that person

  • John says:

    Its mainly because of religion…Roman Catholic is a perfect example

  • Ms. Kennedy says:

    For most people, religion. For others, they want to make sure, be absolutely positive, that they’re with the want they want to be with for the rest of their life before have a physical relationship.

  • RE says:

    bible or something

    my girlfriend wanted to wait, so i got her drunk and got some, then i told her while we always did it might as well not stop now, she fell for it.

  • marie toni. says:

    religion; god.

  • Mean Keen says:

    Idiocy mostly. It’s the 21st century, *** before marriage is now mandatory.

  • Ali M says:

    Usually their religion… because a lot of the times intercoarse before marriage is considered a “Sin”

    answer mine pleae :)

  • Katie says:

    Not wanting to burn.

  • HO HO HO says:

    idk…i know a lot of people who had *** in highschool….

  • Hector says:

    Self control. Foresight.

  • John Lennon says:

    lawl, who does that anymore

    test the water before you jump in

  • RANDOMPERSON:) says:

    To be 100% sure that the special moment is with the person you will be with the rest of your life.

  • Kevin G says:

    The risk of having a kid is too great. Mistakes happen. Fact of life.

  • need2know says:

    uh . . . the Bible.

  • Ron WCB says:

    Typically it’s religion.

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