How much should spend on a wedding gift? The bride and groom are spending $200 per person?

Discussion Corner — By NikhilBhide on March 7, 2008 at 21:58

BR Wants To Know:

Both my husband and I plan on attending the wedding. If we cover their costs, we would have to give the bride & groom $400. In my opinion, that is one heck of a lot of money. We did not ask them to have such an expensive wedding. On the same token, we do not want to be selfish.

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6 Comments

sassyredhead1968 says:

March 21, 2008 at 05:51

If you give a gift from the heart, cost shouldn’t matter. You can find any number of nice gifts for around $50. No one has to know what you spent. Who can afford a $400 wedding gift anyway? Your good thoughts and support at their wedding are a wonderful gift in themselves.
susan e says:

March 19, 2008 at 05:17

whatever gave you the idea you have to spend what they pay per guest??get the most reasonable gift on their registry,unless you’re really close to them and can afford to spend more.
do you really think you two are gonna eat and drink $400.00 worth,no way!
last year i went to a neighbors wedding,i spent about 75.00 but she and i are close.the two other neighbors i went with bought nothing!who talks about how much they pay per guest.tacky!
Pammie says:

March 17, 2008 at 00:17

What they are spendin should not have any bearing on what you spend. I am shocked to hear, yet again, that someone lets their guest know how much they are paying for the wedding. If they needed help covering the cost–they should not have spent so much money. Spend what you can afford and nothing more. It is extremely tacky to invite someone to a wedding and tell them how much you are spending.
Porterhouse says:

March 15, 2008 at 13:13

I agree with McLovin….. choose something from their registry items or perhaps you have an eclectic art or pottery store in your area…. Local wines, etc, etc. I don’t feel that it would be in poor taste for you to spend less than the $400 combined total on you and your husband. In fact, I think it would be kind of rude for them to expect that in return as it would miss the point of them being married.
Mothra says:

March 14, 2008 at 19:54

You are under no obligation whatever to cover the costs of their extravagance. What they chose to spend on the wedding is not your concern, and they have no business letting you know how much they have spent on their wedding, in order for you to base the cost or value of your gift on it. You will not be “selfish” if you do not cover their costs, you will be acting properly. Purchase a gift that you think is appropriate and useful to newlyweds, and do not worry whether it will cost “enough.”
McLovin says:

March 11, 2008 at 09:52

Usually now a days all brides and grooms have a wedding registry at the local mall such as at Nordstorm or anything. If they then just buy somehting from there. That way you aren’t paying that much money and they are getting something they want.

If they don’t then get them something you think they will like or will need. There is nothing that says you should spend the same amount that they are spending on you. In my opnion spending 100-125 is reasonable and you should be able to get them a good gift.