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• bountifiles says:

  September 12, 2006 at 14:04

  Honestly I like to see them remembering to come together. I like it when they are intent on sharing the memory of the day and are in physical & emotional contact with one another. There is something magical about getting to see the kindness and deference paid by newlyweds to one another that’s my favorite part of being a guest. The look in their eye is what I want to reminisce about in 25 years, not the chair covers. Weddings where you never see the couple together except for the dance don’t leave me with a warm fuzzy.
• SirenSong says:

  September 12, 2006 at 03:10

  Greet and mingle with their guests

  Provide good food, drink (doesn’t have to be alcoholic), and entertainment that guests don’t have to pay for

  Look and be happy

  Make sure there is enough seating for each guest, even if you have a dessert or appetizer reception

  Please have assigned tables if you are serving dinner, but you don’t need them for desserts or appetizers. Otherwise people get seperated.

  Don’t forget to send thank you notes to everyone after the wedding

  Those are the basics. Anything beyond that is going above and beyond.
• lazeny says:

  September 10, 2006 at 07:49

  Provide w/ a good food and not being stingy with it. They also must acknowledge and greet their guest. I want the bride and groom to look happy and in-love, not overly concern on what to go wrong about the whole event.
• Lisa says:

  September 8, 2006 at 16:22

  Stay married according to your vows. In sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer… etc.

  Don’t cut and run at the first sign of problems, but do seek help in resolving conflict with trained counsellors… not family who are bound to be prejudiced and also they do not tell you all their dirty secrets, nor should you arm them with this.

  I am serious. I wish you well. May your marriage be blessed and it is great you are considerate and well mannered. Make sure you send each gift giver from the littlest to the biggest a personal note of thanks that says how much you will cherish their vase they gave, or table topper or what ever. Be sure to mention the item by name. It means you noticed and cared. Do it immediately you get the gift, then you don’t have a pile of cards to do later.

  Cheers

  Lisa
• shelcatsmom says:

  September 7, 2006 at 16:49

  To remember that even though it is the most meaningful day of their lives, they are still hosts to all the people they invited to their wedding and reception, and they should make sure every guest is taken care of.

  Food, chairs, comfort, needs, there is accomodation made for everyone.

  And a prompt thank you note, and a hello at the reception.
• aspasia says:

  September 4, 2006 at 21:26

  A good hostess ALWAYS:
  - greets every guest as he or she arrives,
  - makes sure that every guest is introduced to two or three other people,
  - seats each guest next to someone compatible for dinner who is NOT their spouse or sibling,
  - makes sure all guests have enough to eat and their dietary restrictions are accommodated,
  - makes sure that each guest can find necessary conveniences such as cloak rooms and rest rooms,
  - recruits dancing partners for people who she notices standing out from the dancing, and
  - at the end of the evening bids goodnight to each guest and makes sure that no young or vulnerable persons go home unescorted and that no-one drives away drunk.

  That’s a great deal of responsibility on top of being the Bride; which is why wedding receptions run so much more smoothly when they are hosted by someone else, such as the bride’s mother. A good hostess always puts her guests’ ahead of herself, whereas a Bride normally expects and is expected to take first place to herself.
• casper4 says:

  September 3, 2006 at 07:27

  Have a receiving line and/or try to go around to tables (or during cocktail hour) and talk to people.

  Not drink to the point where they’re falling down or vomiting.

  Clearly enjoying each other’s company and having a nice time.

  Being nice to their vendors/waitstaff (not ordering people around or making demands).

  Providing enough chairs and such for the guests.

  Worrying more about quality food and drinks and seating, than insignificant little details (favors, linens, centerpieces, etc.).
• meowwings says:

  September 1, 2006 at 11:09

  try getting pics with everyone there. its always fun for people.
• My Three says:

  August 30, 2006 at 10:47

  I am not selfish when it comes to things like this. I understand it it their day and it is hard to get to everyone especially the last wedding I attended it was well over 300 guest. But what I enjoy is watching them dance together and just enjoying each other.
• Blunt says:

  August 28, 2006 at 19:04

  Enough food, water, a promtly delivered thank you card that is handwritten, and a gracious couple goes from table to table.

  Good luck
• HIS! says:

  August 25, 2006 at 21:36

  A receiving line or walking around to tables and at least saying hello to guests, introducing them to your spouse and telling thanking them for coming.

  And I would like the parents to do the same. It makes you feel like they care that you bothered to come. That’s it, my dear!
• misshammy says:

  August 24, 2006 at 14:15

  I would definitely like to be greeted by the bride and groom, but also know how tiring that is to make all the rounds, so I would approach them myself on the dance floor, or wherever I run into them at.

  Great music… Not too many slow songs… And not too many traditional songs either… Obviously, Father/Daughter dance, Mother/Son dance, First dance, etc. But, after more than that, it tends to bore guests.

  That’s all I really expect
• D4Pres2012 says:

  August 21, 2006 at 12:09

  yeah even if they do a receiving line at the church, the bride and groom should still make the rounds to every table and every guest during the reception. at my parent’s wedding, there was 1 couple who were friends of my grandparents who for some reason were seated by themselves, and they were never greeted during the reception. and my parents had a small wedding where none of the reception guests were invited. no one ever pointed them out to my mom so she could go over and say hello.
• Augustbride2009 says:

  August 19, 2006 at 08:00

  I think if you are having a large wedding, you should have a receiving line to greet all of your guest, that way you get to at least say hello, thanks, ect…

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